It was a euphoric moment when I heard about my son’s acceptance to Stanford University. I pictured him attending college in one of the best universities in the world. His acceptance proved that all his hard work in high school eventually paid off.



But what I didn’t realize then was how far away California is from Texas. That I would miss him like crazy once he moves there. I was glad Stanford started their school year much later than the rest of the country. When everyone’s sons and daughters were already starting college in August, we were fortunate to enjoy his company until mid-September.




We flew to California a few days before the official move-in date (September 20). I was dreading for this day to come and when it finally did, I was filled with bittersweet emotions. When I gave him a hug and a kiss at the end of the day, I cried thinking he won’t be in his room each night when I go back to Texas. He won’t be there in the morning to update me about current political events. He won’t be there to help me walk our dog. I won’t have anyone to go to my favorite sushi restaurant randomly. I will miss seeing him and talking to him over a cup of tea everyday about anything and everything.


As much as it breaks my heart to let go, I am blessed with the peace of mind knowing that he is at a university that is known to take care of their students. I need to take a leap of faith and trust that he will be in good hands. That is, in Stanford’s hands.




I also trust his judgements to make sound decisions. I am confident that my husband and I have given him the strong foundation to be successful on his own. I can only hope and pray that this new chapter in his life will bring him fulfillment, to help him reach his goals, and guide him to find his way and place in this world. But, ultimately, my only wish is for him to be happy.




He will be back during the holidays and until then, I will terribly long for his presence! Perhaps I’ll start binge watching his favorite shows on Netflix or HBO so when he comes home, we will have more things to talk about! 😄
HI Boots, Coming back to this post but wanted you to know I have linked out to your blog on my last post, You may need to approve the link. Louise
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Hi Louise.. I haven’t been asked to approve it from WordPress. Thank you for mentioning my blog though and looking forward to the second blog!
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You’re welcome Boots. I’m a bit behind with reading our latest so looking forward to catching up.
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No worries Louise! Ive been through a lot lately but thank goodness I always manage to get up despite all the setbacks.
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You are very resilient.
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That is so sweet, Boots. I envy your close relationship to your son. I wish I had a mom like you when I was your son’s age. 🙂
That’s all because of that part where you said you will watch his favorite TV shows so you two will have a lot to talk about soon.
Congratulations again to your son! I could just imagine how proud you are and I would feel exactly the same had I been in your position.
Happy you let go!
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Thank you Sony! I hope that in time my sons will realize how fortunate they are. I have made THEM my life’s #1 priority and I think I’ve done quite a good job so far! Although I’m not perfect, I always try to be a good mom!
But the question now is when do I make ME my priority? Lol!
Have a great weekend up ahead Sony! (I’m not looking forward to next week- elections here in the US!).
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Wow, congratulations! I can imagine your feeling, trust he would feel the same. as I did when about to leave my parents to the Netherlands. Back then we had no WhatsApp, not Facebook Messenger and we stayed in touch by post (my parents did not do well with e-mail thingies back then) and weekly international calls. I am sure he will stay in touch and there is now a reason to visit CA frequently 🙂 Best wishes ❤
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Thanks Indah! When my parents left the States and moved back to the Philippines, I stayed behind and like you then, we had no internet yet. So we wrote each other through post and spent so much on international calls as well! Gosh it’s so much easier now and I don’t know how I survived without the Internet then lol!
You’re right the social networking, texts, FaceTime, etc make everyone closer now. We FaceTime every week and it makes me happy to hear from him. Though I still miss him!
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Love the ‘heart go walking outside your body’ expression. Ah the circle of life eh? But congrats on him getting a place! Does it help that I was looking for the picture of you at the end because I thought that was his sister?
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Haha! You’re sweet!!! Thanks so much. It’s been 3 weeks now and I can’t still get used to the idea that one of my sons is away and is in college!
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That is a good school and I am sure your son will be in good hands. I can understand your feelings.
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Wow, congrats to your son! It is a bittersweet feeling, but I’m sure the separation is just temporary. Your son will be a much better person. 🙂
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Thanks Jay! I sure hope so! College life—parties, the booze, etc. scare the heck out of me. I just hope he is smart enough to stay away from those things! And I think he is.
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When I said goodbye and my son went off to college almost 3000 miles away- I was so lonely. Boots-it will get better. Make sure your husband treats you good! That helps! Alittle distraction i day! Thx always for stopping by my blog
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My husband knows I’m lonely right now because I’m so used to having my boys around me all the time. So he is making me feel better! I know it’ll get better but when it does, it’ll be time for my younger son to leave for college 😂
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So bittersweet, you must be so proud but then there’s the separation. I can’t imagine how that feels, I am bad enough when our son goes away for a week on a school trip. He will fly though!
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Yes the separation is the hardest part. But I’m sure it’ll get easier in time and with the technology now, we are always in touch! Thanks, Joy!
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I’ve seen motherhood described as having your heart go walking outside your body — which is very apt, I think — so I can only imagine how you must feel “letting go” of your son. But from what I’ve read about him in your blog and what I’ve read before in his blog, he sounds like a very good, smart, responsible kid. Kudos to you for having done all you can to prepare him for this moment. xx
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Oh thank you so much STGMT! Funny I just realized I don’t know your name 😄
I like how motherhood is described- and it’s so true!! I hope my kids realize how much I love them and my heart will follow them everywhere they go. ❤️
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He he, well it’s Gaya actually (short for Ligaya, lol).
And I can so relate to how you feel about your kids. I never realized how full my heart could get until my son came into my life.
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I love the nickname Gaya! My husband always laughs at how unique Filipino nicknames are.
I’ve always said no one knows what true love is until you have kids. Because unconditional love is true love. ❤️
Thanks again, Gaya!
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Oh wow. I can only imagine how much you will miss him!
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Yes it’s only been more than a week and I miss him so much!
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Hi Boots, My youngest daughter did a semester at Guelph University in Canada a few years ago…. Facebook and FaceTime are great to keep in touch I am sure he will enjoy his time. It is very exciting for him! Louise
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Wow that’s even farther but you’re right with the technology now it makes it easier on us to keep in touch. So far we’ve been texting each other but it’s still not the same. My only consolation is that he is scheduled to come home every holiday this first year. Thanks Louise for the encouragement!
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